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Jerry & Pat
"Everyone is doing the best they
can "Keeper of the Stars" by Tracy
Byrd Welcome to our personal pages, I hope you enjoy them as much as I did making them! My name is Pat and I am married to the love of my life, Jerry Lee Varley, I am 48 years of age with 3 children, Jennifer Marie Murphy (20), Jessica Mary Murphy (20) and Justin Ryan Simons-Varley (11). As you can see we are a mixed family and have been united together since 1995. I was a single mother for two years and lived in the same home I lived in Deer Park, Texas until June 2003, when we moved to Louisiana. Though times were very tough as a single mom, I managed to make ends meet and carry my household with me and my girls. I think I've made some bad choices along the way, but I've learned to love myself in the end, life sometimes takes you down many roads for a reason. I'm a STRONG advocate against domestic violence and thank God the laws have gotten tougher to stop the violence, it may not end it, but there is more hope that it will. I married the girls dad in October 1985 and found out I was pregnant and due March 1088. My girls were monozygotic twins, which translates into same sac twins (identical). Only 4% of identical twins born are born in the same sac. I was bedfast during the last 2 1/2 months of the pregnancy due to premature labor and thank God for my parents who just moved in to take over the load. My mother would watch me like a hawk and make sure I did as I was told by my doctor. She kept my house as clean as I liked it and waited on me hand and foot. I will always be so grateful to my mother for that, you understand that unconditional love when you become a parent yourself. My dad had to drive a long way to work everyday just to stay out where we lived, but never complained at all. Here I am right before I gave birth .
It was Super Bowl Sunday, Washington Redskins versus Denver Broncos in San Diego, CA. January 31, 1988, at 10:00 p.m. Jennifer Marie was born and at 10:01 Jessica Mary was born into this world by C-Section. They were seven weeks early, Jennifer weighed 5 lbs 11 oz, and Jessica weighed 5 lbs 7 oz! They were entangled by their umbilical cords which were twisted 32 times, the doctor himself, Dr. Moise, was amazed by their outcome and health. God blessed me and my family by giving me two healthy, beautiful babies. They stayed in the hospital eleven days and came home. Here's some pictures of my precious angels early on. Our twin miracles ♥♥
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On the day that the girls arrived
I was in the emergency room at a local hospital being seen by the doctor on
call. I was due to be released when he decided to look over the fetal
heart strips a second time and concluded that they were pulling at each other's
umbilical cords. At that time I was taken by ambulance to
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In December, 1994, I met Jerry Lee Varley in the Gerland's Parking Lot in Deer Park, TX! I am a singer-entertainer and at the time I was performing for a benefit to raise money for a family who had a sick child. I was good friends with his brother, and had mistaken him from the start to be his brother. Quite embarrassed we talked and now I know what they mean about love at first sight. We went out that night and I felt as if I had been with him all my life. I married Jerry Lee Varley on September 30, 1995, with my daughters present as my best ladies:
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The girls immediately took to "Daddy J" as they soon called him, by their choice of course. Jerry gave them a ring to symbolize the union at our wedding ceremony and they felt so wonderful about that. Jerry and I set in with "his" new family and he fit right in. There was never a moment when he didn't love my girls and me as he did from the very start. He was a homework tutor to them and spent many hours watching over them and helping them with their homework. Jerry is a patient and kind man, never wavering, no matter how hard it certainly was. You see he had no children until becoming an instant step-father to my daughter's. I will say to this day he did a better job than most father's I know and still continues to amaze me with his total devotion to seeing after his family. I discussed with Jerry about possibly having another child. Jerry like I said had no children, so we asked the girls what they thought and of course they were jumping up and down saying yes! So we let come what may and August I found out that I was pregnant. Of course it took four pregnancy tests for me to believe it, because I felt so good! The pregnancy was without any major complications except the 70+lb weight gain! And early on due to my age at the time, 37 yrs old, I had an amniocentesis performed which told us we would be expecting a son. I was totally elated and had already picked out this young man's name. He would be named after my father J.R. Simons, his name would be Justin Ryan Simons-Varley. And so it was. On April 9, 1997, Justin Ryan was born, what an exciting time for us, he was beautiful! I had a C-Section and they let me stay in recovery for a bit before wheeling me down to see him. They were bringing him by in the incubator and immediately I knew something was wrong. His breathing sounding very labored. They told us that he would be going to Neonatal Intensive Care. We were scared to death, the girls were so upset. I was told to stay in bed for 4 days, and had to rely on reports from Jerry on how he was, but by day 5, mama was on her way down to see him. I was horrified by what he looked like. Tubes and breathing vent over his tiny face, but the crew he had watching over him was remarkable and that made me feel a little at ease. Here's some pictures of Justin's delivery and first few days:
Justin went from Level I to the critical unit Level III Neonatal Unit. He then stepped down to General Nursery and we were allowed to take him home, here's some more pics of that glorious day! I stayed home from work for 8 weeks after Justin was born and enjoyed every minute of it, of course he was colicky and that was difficult, but we did just fine. When it was time for me to return to work, it was difficult, but I entrusted him into the hands of Ms. Linda, who was the babysitter of my girls since about 1st grade. She did a wonderful job and Justin was very happy there to be with his sissies too. |
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